Thursday, June 19, 2014

My MOH Speech

My brother got married a few weeks ago.  I am very fortunate in that the woman he married is one of my very best friends.  I also had the honor of standing next to them as the Matron of Honor!  But of course that means I had to give a speech.  It took me a few days to write something I liked, and I was editing it the morning of the wedding, and even after the ceremony and right before the reception.  Turns out, the first part of my speech was included in the ceremony- whoops!  So I had to improvise a little bit and skip part.  But I'm including my speech here- for memory, and maybe for someone else's inspiration.

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Hello everyone. For those who don’t know me, I am Alissa, and Jeff is my little brother. I’ve known him for his whole life. Josie, I’ve known since college at Towson. It’s funny. People who live in The County always talk about how small it is and everyone knows everyone. So it’s funny ironic Jeff and Josie grew up two miles from each other, went to the same high school for three years, and never met until they went 100 miles away to Towson. Think of how many times their paths must have crossed, and they never knew!**

The first time I met Josie was in our friend Lacey's dorm room at Towson. Josie was wearing her workout gear and I think had either just come from or was heading to the gym. The first thought I had about her was, “wow, who is this dedicated- and crazy- college freshman who still has time and motivation to hit the gym?” After that, we became friends, and Jeff and Josie met, and then Josie was a regular in our lives.

Josie has been a great friend to me since that day I met her in her workout gear. She is supportive and sweet, but she also always tells you exactly how it is. She has there and supported me through the most important events in my life so far- when I first met my husband, she was there giving him high fives. When we got engaged, she knew about it and helped plan it. And, side note, Josie is so surprising and she always keeps you guessing- could you tell by looking at her that this girl just looooooves the transformers movies? So much so that I now associate transformers with my own relationship because she convinced the group to go see transformers 2 on the day Scott proposed to me. I don’t think I will ever forgive her for that.


Jeff is my little brother, and we have always been very close- he really is one of my best friends. And while I’m still not quite sure how he managed to reel Josie in, I’m glad he did because you two couldn’t be more perfect each other. The fact that two of the most important and valuable people in my life are together in love fills me with happiness. You’re perfect for each other, and I’m not just saying that because I’m biased in both directions. Having Josie in his life has, how should I say this, “calmed him down.” He dresses nicer. He’s more clean-shaven.  He's no longer nocturnal.  And honestly, I think she has made him a better brother. And he’s been great for her, too. He’s a very loyal and supportive person, and always steps directly onto the plate when duty calls. I know that Josie will never want for anything, as long as Jeff is around.

My mom and I were talking the other day and she offhandedly mentioned, “you know, you always said you wanted a sister.” And I always have. Sorry, Jeff. But putting you in drag doesn’t really count. Josie, you’re everything I could ever want for my brother, and everything I could ever want in a sister.


Jeff, I am so proud of you. I never imagined that my crazy baby brother could clean up so nicely. I love both of you so much. Separately, you are two special and remarkable people, but together you are complete. I wish you all the happiness in the world in your future together, and lots of little nieces and nephews for me to spoil.

I’d like to end my toast with a quote from one of the most highly regarded and groundbreaking television series of our time- Buffy the Vampire Slayer. “When I say, 'I love you,' it's not because I want you or because I can't have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I've seen your kindness and your strength. I've seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You're a hell of a woman. You're the one.” Thanks everyone, and congratulations J squared.   



**This part was glazed over and improvised, as it was stated during the wedding ceremony

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